today is normally patience made day but this is the state of what i am currently making:
this week i received my new driver's license in the mail. my license doesn't actually expire until my birthday in november, but i had to get a new one because i finally changed my last name. sort of. after one year and one month of being married, i finally got around to taking my husband's name. sort of.
so, if you're new to this blog, my last name is patience. as in... "patience is a virtue"... as in "isavirtue." don't worry, i'll wait while it all pieces itself together in your mind.
so it's a pretty great last name if i do say so myself. and i'm allowed to say that because i didn't even know it until i was much much older. so i've really only started enjoying the name in the last five-ten years. i began loving it so much i indirectly named my shop and business after it!
so i couldn't just give it up right? some would say i could - or that i should! luckily my husband wasn't one of those. don't get me wrong, i'm pretty sure he would have been thrilled if i took his last name completely. but i didn't - i took it in addition to my own. webb patience. his name before mine, no hyphen.
i'm going to be honest with you and tell you that it was 80% aesthetics (i don't like his last name at all. i don't like the way it looks or the way it sounds). but 20% of me just didn't get why i should have to get rid of a last name that i've lived with for twenty-six years! i don't consider myself to be a full blown feminist but sometimes i look at these traditions and think "why?"
would it be totally unheard of for the man to take the woman's name? i know my husband wouldn't even entertain that idea. he said it had to do with the fact that his brother has a little girl, and now he's done having kids. "so how will the webb name live on without me??" he asked. and i said "sweetie, i think there's more than enough webbs in the world already." but patience's? not so much.
i get the whole family unit/unity thing. i really do. so for that reason, our children will take his last name. though i'm not opposed to giving a girl my last name as a middle name.
so what do you think? did i do the right thing? what did you do when you got married and why? if you are not married, how do you imagine that you will handle this situation?