friendship is finicky thing isn't it? when i was younger it was drama rama 24-7. and i wasn't even one of the girls that thrived on drama. it's just unavoidable at that age. when you are developing into a mature being, there are missteps and misjudgments along the way - you sometimes hurt people. i like to think that much of this wears off by the time you become an adult, or perhaps i have learned to surround myself with people who share the same beliefs about friendship as i do.
beliefs which include the idea that life brings us changes - the hardest of which include moving apart (both geographically and metaphorically). i have friends from all aspects of my life, but few of them live in the same city as i do. in fact, sometimes i'll go weeks, months, even years without seeing or even speaking to these people. so are they still friends? i say most definitely yes. i believe there are certain people you click with and even though you may not see each other for years, it's fine. when i finally do see my old friends, i know they are true when there is no awkwardness or lack of conversation. for goodness sake there should be tons of conversation after all that time!
if you were to put me in the same room with my old leadership club buddy, my university residence roommate or my best friend from grade three, there would be no hard feelings. i don't always get in touch with one of my graduate school friends who was in my bridal party. but i know - i just know - it won't be a problem.
this isn't to say other people always feel the way i do. i've had friends become angry with me when our communication becomes lacking. this type of friendship isn't for everyone. some people need to maintain contact through phone calls, skype, emails and letters at least once a week to feel like the friendship is true - that's just not how i feel about it.
how do you feel about friendship? is it necessary to talk every day or every week? does location play a role?
my two friends that i met in highschool in 1999 - here in 2007
the same group of friends in 2009